Why women talk so much !!!!
You must be wondering what made me give this title to the post. You will know it as you read this. I took my kids to the park which I do daily as that is the only way to expend all their stored energy in a good and positive way or that is what all STAY-AT-HOME MOMs do (or atleast those who want to escape from the wailing ladies of the megaserials!). A breath of fresh air will boost up the energy to tackle your kids for next 24 hours. Hmm .. so where was I..Yeah I went to park yesterday and happened to meet a lady.
This lady was sitting on a chair near the play area and was fidgeting with her iphone. She seemed restless. Her daughter who was around 4 years came running to her every now and then .. and she was coaxing her daughter to play some more time on her own. My elderone was playing and I was just taking a stroll around and happened to get past her. As a matter of formality when she looked at me I smiled expecting her to smile back. She gave me a half smile with blank look on her face. May be she was thinking something or was she thinking 'Bakra milgaya' ? Are you wondering what made me say so? I am giving a snippet of the conversation that went soon after that blank look .. hope that helps you in sympathesizing with me for spending traumatized 45 minutes in the park. I am going to refer to the wonderful lady as YASAHM (Yet another stay at home mom) ..and the italicised words are thoughts that were going on in my mind (hehehe) read on..
YASAHM : Hi
ME : hi
YASAHM : Your kids?
ME : Yeah
Why ? Will I bring my neighbour's kids to the park? ayyo ayyo!
YASAHM: Which school?
ME : xyz school
YASAHM : xyz school ? y xyz school? What is so special about that school? What is the reason?
So many questions or is it one question..I thought she was confused about selecting a school for her daughter but that was not the case.
ME : There are lots of branches for this school and..
YASHM didn't seem happy with the way my answer was her shaping up and so her gyaan started ..
YASAHM: What will happen when you change school.. its just a matter of syllabus right CBSE.. See I heard from my cousin's neighbour that her daughter's school is better where they teach very well in a practical manner... blah ...blah.. blah...
She didn't stop with that..When I was in 9th std in Chandigarh..this is what they did.. that is what they told me..that is how it is done.. this needs to be done...that school is better or this school is better......blah blah blah
Oh the question was asked just to show me what knowledge she got from her schools. how studious she was,I even came to know what she learnt in school from her 5th to 10th standard. Soon she ran out of content. I didn't give her a lead and wanted it to end there, but she didn't want to.
YASAHM: Any extra curricular activities after school?
ME : No What's the point? Anyways free advice will be given!!
YASAHM: Y y no classes? Her tone was like as though I committed a big crime by not loading my kid with after school classes See there is a mall nearby, there are piano class, painting class, swimming class.,, that class this class,, my uncle's second grandson goes to this one.. my friends daughter goes for this class blah blah,....
I came to know about what are the classes available for different ages. Why one should put their kids for extra classes even if they are not interested? Her daughter doesn't wants to attend any class. When your daughter doesn't wants to go to any class and wants to be free.. yen pullai dhaan kidaichaana !!
ME : Ok
YASAHM: You are from which place?
ME : Chen.. (Stopped me right there)
YASAHM: Chennai right .. I am from chandigarh ..my inlaws are from kanpur..my friend is from portblair ... she will be coming tomorrow..her parents are from chennai but they moved to bangalore because my friends brother got a work there....
me: oh..Madam.. you are in chandigarh I am happy about that ..I also came to know about her friends, friends' friends and their cousins, their parents and parents in law who are put up across south india (here south india refers to Bangalore and Chennai only)
YASAHM: R u working?
ME : I used to but now I am not..as usual I was not allowed to complete
YASAHM : No right .. its better to stay at home and look after the kids.. kids should be treated like... done this done that ..have you ..whynot..blah blah blah blah blah... you can do this ..otherwise its difficult..blah blah blah..
me: yeah
I could make out that she was far more happier than my kids when I said I am not going to office anymore.....I got free lessons on parenting, cooking and housekeeping
YASAHM: Where is your husband working?
ME : XY... Solradhe waste.. solluma un husbanda pathi sollu therinjukkaren IQ valarum
YASAHM: XYZ right..my husband works for Bank of abc.. we came here 4 years ago .. he used to work for such and such client in such and such a place for such and such and time. Then we moved out of such and such country to such and such place. Then he was put in such and such project which was a failure so moved to another place.. blah blah blah blah.
Looks like I have got the hands on information of her husband's company projects and their success and failure rate as well... What is better ? Onsite or Offshore..and also free lessons on Onsite transfers and relocation. Which is better ..US or the east etc etc....
YASAHM: Do you like this place?
What is the point in opening your mouth and answering anyways it will be cut short..
ME : Ye..
YASAHM: Yes yes even I like this place ..i have been there..seen that.. done that...its nice its beautiful..its good..blah blah ...blah blah..you can see this here..you can do that there..etc etc.
ME : oh I know what's her likes and dislikes .. how she keeps her house.. who has visited her in last 5 years and other blah blah
I thought for a second, its almost 45 minutes and before the conversation shifts to phuphaji, mamaji , devarji and their household, I better move off soon from that place.. called my kid said a quick bye and scooted from that place.
She smiled very prettily and I could guess that she was hoping to see me again today..
But I thought Thuje bakra milgaya aur mujhe sardard !!!
I wonder how her Bank of abc husband listen's to her non stop FM radio. Its Ok to start a conversation and keep it going with masala tadkas everynow and then..but what if the other person never allows you talk and keeps pondering over the matters that are totally irrelevant or uninteresting to you. Pathetic.. so goes the title.
Why women talk so much ? Ammadiyov..
This lady was sitting on a chair near the play area and was fidgeting with her iphone. She seemed restless. Her daughter who was around 4 years came running to her every now and then .. and she was coaxing her daughter to play some more time on her own. My elderone was playing and I was just taking a stroll around and happened to get past her. As a matter of formality when she looked at me I smiled expecting her to smile back. She gave me a half smile with blank look on her face. May be she was thinking something or was she thinking 'Bakra milgaya' ? Are you wondering what made me say so? I am giving a snippet of the conversation that went soon after that blank look .. hope that helps you in sympathesizing with me for spending traumatized 45 minutes in the park. I am going to refer to the wonderful lady as YASAHM (Yet another stay at home mom) ..and the italicised words are thoughts that were going on in my mind (hehehe) read on..
YASAHM : Hi
ME : hi
YASAHM : Your kids?
ME : Yeah
Why ? Will I bring my neighbour's kids to the park? ayyo ayyo!
YASAHM: Which school?
ME : xyz school
YASAHM : xyz school ? y xyz school? What is so special about that school? What is the reason?
So many questions or is it one question..I thought she was confused about selecting a school for her daughter but that was not the case.
ME : There are lots of branches for this school and..
YASHM didn't seem happy with the way my answer was her shaping up and so her gyaan started ..
YASAHM: What will happen when you change school.. its just a matter of syllabus right CBSE.. See I heard from my cousin's neighbour that her daughter's school is better where they teach very well in a practical manner... blah ...blah.. blah...
She didn't stop with that..When I was in 9th std in Chandigarh..this is what they did.. that is what they told me..that is how it is done.. this needs to be done...that school is better or this school is better......blah blah blah
Oh the question was asked just to show me what knowledge she got from her schools. how studious she was,I even came to know what she learnt in school from her 5th to 10th standard. Soon she ran out of content. I didn't give her a lead and wanted it to end there, but she didn't want to.
YASAHM: Any extra curricular activities after school?
ME : No What's the point? Anyways free advice will be given!!
YASAHM: Y y no classes? Her tone was like as though I committed a big crime by not loading my kid with after school classes See there is a mall nearby, there are piano class, painting class, swimming class.,, that class this class,, my uncle's second grandson goes to this one.. my friends daughter goes for this class blah blah,....
I came to know about what are the classes available for different ages. Why one should put their kids for extra classes even if they are not interested? Her daughter doesn't wants to attend any class. When your daughter doesn't wants to go to any class and wants to be free.. yen pullai dhaan kidaichaana !!
ME : Ok
YASAHM: You are from which place?
ME : Chen.. (Stopped me right there)
YASAHM: Chennai right .. I am from chandigarh ..my inlaws are from kanpur..my friend is from portblair ... she will be coming tomorrow..her parents are from chennai but they moved to bangalore because my friends brother got a work there....
me: oh..Madam.. you are in chandigarh I am happy about that ..I also came to know about her friends, friends' friends and their cousins, their parents and parents in law who are put up across south india (here south india refers to Bangalore and Chennai only)
YASAHM: R u working?
ME : I used to but now I am not..as usual I was not allowed to complete
YASAHM : No right .. its better to stay at home and look after the kids.. kids should be treated like... done this done that ..have you ..whynot..blah blah blah blah blah... you can do this ..otherwise its difficult..blah blah blah..
me: yeah
I could make out that she was far more happier than my kids when I said I am not going to office anymore.....I got free lessons on parenting, cooking and housekeeping
YASAHM: Where is your husband working?
ME : XY... Solradhe waste.. solluma un husbanda pathi sollu therinjukkaren IQ valarum
YASAHM: XYZ right..my husband works for Bank of abc.. we came here 4 years ago .. he used to work for such and such client in such and such a place for such and such and time. Then we moved out of such and such country to such and such place. Then he was put in such and such project which was a failure so moved to another place.. blah blah blah blah.
Looks like I have got the hands on information of her husband's company projects and their success and failure rate as well... What is better ? Onsite or Offshore..and also free lessons on Onsite transfers and relocation. Which is better ..US or the east etc etc....
YASAHM: Do you like this place?
What is the point in opening your mouth and answering anyways it will be cut short..
ME : Ye..
YASAHM: Yes yes even I like this place ..i have been there..seen that.. done that...its nice its beautiful..its good..blah blah ...blah blah..you can see this here..you can do that there..etc etc.
ME : oh I know what's her likes and dislikes .. how she keeps her house.. who has visited her in last 5 years and other blah blah
I thought for a second, its almost 45 minutes and before the conversation shifts to phuphaji, mamaji , devarji and their household, I better move off soon from that place.. called my kid said a quick bye and scooted from that place.
She smiled very prettily and I could guess that she was hoping to see me again today..
But I thought Thuje bakra milgaya aur mujhe sardard !!!
I wonder how her Bank of abc husband listen's to her non stop FM radio. Its Ok to start a conversation and keep it going with masala tadkas everynow and then..but what if the other person never allows you talk and keeps pondering over the matters that are totally irrelevant or uninteresting to you. Pathetic.. so goes the title.
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