I am That

  The mission I set on to understand the happiness concept paved way for reading, exploring, experiencing this journey, and being evolved with every step. Obviously, I am still a ‘Work in Progress’. There is no destination to reach because the journey is the destination. No proper end goal to attain only a refined self with better conscience. When I wrote the series Money, success, and happiness 10 years ago, the world was a different one than what it is now. Today, as I write this, there is chaos and uncertainty all around. Finding peace in the midst of chaos is not an easy task. The first step towards self-care during such chaotic times is to be aware of oneself. Yes, “being aware”. Being aware of your thoughts helps you to identify the root cause of your feelings. The feeling of contentment,resentment, joy, sadness, anguish, anxiety , or whatever you are feeling at that moment ,be aware of how you are feeling.  Relationships become easier, whether with people or things as...

  I picked this book randomly from library as I seldom read about leaders or politics. Oh my! How naive was I? This book has opened new quest for knowledge for me. What a man! When the master speaks, you listen. His words of wisdom are for all ages and his journey is a lesson for many. I will remember the lessons for a long time to come. An enlightening read!

Happiness – each of us have our own definition of happiness. For some its good food and good sleep, and for others its much more than that…What determines your happiness? I have been on this quest for searching the meaning of happiness not the happiness itself for a quiet a long time now. It intrigues me that sense of happiness for each one of us is like “One man’s meat is another man’s poison”. I always get nostalgic with Kannadasan’s song from the movie “Sumaithangi(1962)”, whenever I am tempest tossed and undermine the blessings in my life.   மயக்கமா கலக்கமா மனதிலே குழப்பமா வாழ்க்கையில் நடுக்கமா மயக்கமா கலக்கமா மனதிலே குழப்பமா வாழ்க்கையில் நடுக்கமா வாழ்க்கை என்றால் ஆயிரம் இருக்கும் வாசல் தோறும் வேதனை இருக்கும் வந்த துன்பம் எதுவென்றாலும் வாடி நின்றால் ஓடுவதில்லை வாடி நின்றால் ஓடுவதில்லை எதையும் தாங்கும் இதயம் இருந்தால் இறுதி வரைக்கும் அமைதி இருக்கும் மயக்கமா கலக்கமா மனதிலே குழப்பமா வாழ்க்கையில் நடுக்கமா ஏழை மனதை மாளிகையாக்கி இர...

What is a mindset? Mindset can be defined as set of established attitudes held by a person that holds the key to a person’s success or happiness. Psychologists have recently identified two types of mindsets – Fixed and Growth. A person with a fixed mindset believes that his or her talents are innate gifts and no amount of hard work can change the outcome where as a person with a growth mindset believes that his or her talents can be worked on with the help of hard work, strategies, and taking suggestions and inspirations from the situations and people. We must be optimistic but also be prepared to face any adversity, in Maya Angelou’s words,“ Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst, and unsurprised by anything in between”. Having a positive outlook does not mean that you have a growth mindset. An outlook that is ready to capitalize on setbacks and take risks knowing that some risks may not work out will help in developing the growth mindset.  According to Carol Dwek from ...

When you are lonely you entangle yourself in the chaos of the world but in solitude there is peace in detached attachment! A wonderful poem by Alexander pope : Happy the man, whose wish and care    A few paternal acres bound, Content to breathe his native air,                             In his own ground. Whose herds with milk, whose fields with bread,    Whose flocks supply him with attire, Whose trees in summer yield him shade,                             In winter fire. Blest, who can unconcernedly find    Hours, days, and years slide soft away, In health of body, peace of mind,           ...

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The book 'When' is about timing the decisions. It discusses the vital points to take important as well as mundane decisions of our life. Daniel explores the timing of decisions in three parts. The part one describes the waves of the day, being a lark, owl or a third bird, and the importance of taking breaks in a day. In part two, he discusses the different mindsets behind the beginning, mid-point and endings of everything. He suggests whether it is a project or life, bad start can be overcome by starting again till the beginning is better. People are prone to be tired in mid-points, and these midpoints in any session or life illustrates the underlying behaviour of people. Endings are more important than beginnings. People loving happy endings is overrated and sad endings too has its own tenderness and significance. In part three, Daniel analysis the power of synchronising with the others and asserts that it gives a sense of belonging and purpose to an individual. He p...

किण संग करां स्नेह ? पान पड़ंते यूं कह्यो कि सुन तरुवर बनराय अब के बिछड़े कब मिलें , दूर पड़ेंगे जाय ? तो आग लगी इस वृक्ष को , और जलन लगे सब पात तुम क्यों जलो पंखेरुओं , पंख तुम्हारे पास ? फल फुल खादे इस वृक्ष के , और बीट पड़ी है पात उड़ना हमारा धर्म नहीं , और जलना वृक्ष के साथ हेलिए , किण संग करां मैं स्नेह ? संगत कीजो धरमी साध री संगत कीजो निर्मळ साध री बांस उगो इना बाग़ मां , थरक रही बन राय आप जले औरन के जाले , अग्नि घणी अंग मांय किण संग … चंदन उगो इना बाग़ मां , हरख रही बन राय चंदन पास मैं जाऊं , आप चंदन हुई जाऊं किण संग … दव लागो इना बाग़ मां , पंछी बैठो आये हम जले पंख बहीरो , तम उड़ी परे को जाए किण संग … फल खादा पान बिरोड़िया , रमिया डालो डाल तम जलो मैं उभरूं , जीवनो कितरीक बार ? किण संग … दव बुझ्यो झाड़ा मेटिया , दूधे बूठा मेह कहत कबीरा धर्मिदास से , नित नित नवलो नेह किण संग … -- कबीरदास  ...