Money, Happiness and Success !!! - Part IV

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When your happiness is dependent on PEOPLE:

In most cases or in almost everything , we put the responsiblity of our happiness on the shoulders of other people (here people refers to husband, wife , children, neighbour, boss, maid or any person other than 'you').

If everybody does what you think or you say you are happy, otherwise you are not. So your happiness is fully dependent on others.

If the other person does n't appreciate you for what you have done , you are unhappy. You are in pain as you are expecting them to appreciate and motivate you.Have you ever realised that how can somebody give you something which they don't have ?

We keep begging others to love and give peace to us when our soul is an embodiment of love and peace. Why do you have to go and knock at other people's heart and mind and ask to love you or give you a peace of mind? We want to live a royal life. How does a king live? King never begs. He gives. Royalty is not in asking. Royalty is in giving.

A child when falls down while walking or hurt himself against something, he is told to hit the floor or things which made him fall. By doing that a wrong belief system is instilled. The child gets the message that he fell down because of the floor or the thing which was in his way. We never bother to tell the child what was his mistake and how he can overcome it. We are more bothered about calming him down for that minute. How? Put the blame on others for your unhappiness. This is what all of us do when we grow up, we blame others for our unhappiness and never try to introspect the reason for our miseries.

Whenever in life you come across people who worry you, who make you feel sad or never do what you expected them to do , just stop for a minute and check your belief system - No one is under your control. The only control that has been given to you is self control. You cannot decide what the other person has to say , do or think.

Has anybody hurt you with their thought, word and deed? Move on. Let go of your past and the feeling of grudge. Settle your Karmic accounts then and there. There is no use of carrying hurt and pain. The other person has not caused hurt or pain in you. They said what they have to say and did what they have to do. It is the thought that you carry all along, that they have hurt you is what causing pain. By forgiving and forgetting you put a fullstop to this vicious cycle.

Every thought in your mind is a form of energy that comes out as action or Karma and every Karma creates destiny. Destiny is not something that is going to happen to you after 10 or 15 years. Destiny is even that which is going to happen to you the next moment. Your thought, your Karma decides your Destiny. You can decide your destiny for the day.

Stop writing other people's script. It's far better and worthwhile to write and concentrate only on yours.




P.S: Thanks to Sister Shivani for her inspiring lectures.

Comments

Chandrasekharan Raman said…
Good one. Is this the last in this series?
3 June 2011 at 08:34
VPP said…
Thanks chandru, this is the penultimate one.
3 June 2011 at 21:54
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